Discovered your partner is cheating? What now? You are about to find out in no uncertain terms how to handle a cheating partner!
What you need to know is there is no one size fits all solution. Every situation is different. But there are certainly a few powerful steps you can take immediately. Sleeping with someone else as pay back would be sweet revenge!
Wouldn’t it?
But what good would it do?
You’re well beyond lowering yourself to such pettiness.
…Or are you?
I know how it feels to be cheated on…
It’s hurtful and infuriating at the same time.
It’s one of the worse feelings you could ever experience.
I seriously considered sleeping with someone else just to make myself feel better.
Looking back, I’m glad I didn’t because it taught me a valuable lesson.
It taught me how to turn lemons into lemonade.
That’s what life is all about!
Isn’t it?
Overcoming setbacks and disappointments is one life’s cornerstones.
It’s not about what happens to you, it’s all about how you respond to the things that happen.
That’s the key!
Which brings us to the question…
How do you handle a cheating partner?
What exactly do you do about it?
- Do you leave?
- Do you stay and make their life miserable?
- Do you forgive them and move on?
- Is getting revenge the next move?
- How do you handle knowing your partner is cheating on you?
Before we get into how you would respond to this, let’s lay out the facts!
- Do you have solid proof your partner is cheating?
- Did you catch them in the act?
- Did they confess to you?
- Did you find incriminating text or emails on their phone?
- Do you have hearsay evidence? (ie. your friends giving you their opinions.)
- How do you know they’re cheating?
You’ll be surprised to know how many people base their beliefs on a hunch or a feeling instead of actual facts.
They say things like, I just know he/she is cheating.
How do you know?
They respond, “I just know”.
What they don’t know…
…ARE THE FACTS!
Gathering facts is not easy, but who can make an informed decision without first knowing the facts.
Napolean Hill in his breath-taking essay on accurate thinking said, “Nothing exist until there’s proof that it does.”
Where there is no proof, it’s safe to assume nothing exist.
That’s accurate thinking!
It eliminates the natural tendency to rely on your own assumptions and opinions.
The first order of business is getting adequate proof your partner is cheating.
You agree?
Good!
Here’s the proper way to get proof!
Uncovering The Truth
You need to the know the facts!
Fact finding is not easy, but once you have them you then put yourself in position to make reasonable decisions.
I’m not telling you to stay with your partner nor am I telling you to leave, but I am saying that you deserve to know the truth.
Once you have the facts it strengthens your position.
Only then are you ready to answer the question…
How do you handle a cheating partner?
Make no mistake about it…
You’re in the right place!
I’ve been in your shoes.
Strap yourself in… and let’s look at how cheaters think!
The Mindset of A Cheating Partner
Nobody ever cheats with the goal of getting caught!
It’s always a secret they intend to keep hidden, especially from (you)…the person they’re cheating on.
That’s what is so heartbreaking…
You have to know what to do and more importantly, how to do it, if you want to get the truth.
One failed attempt could mark the end of your already slim chances of ever finding out the truth.
Most people will go about the process of uncovering the truth the wrong way.
They’ll start snooping around, asking a bunch of questions and while they think it’s helping them get closer to the truth, it actually signals their partner to do a better job covering things up.
Typically this will lead to anger, resentment and total frustration because after your partner realizes you’re spying on them, they will begin to take extra precautions to make sure you never find out the truth.
This is why some people decide to hire professional help.
Instead of going through the time consuming process of finding out on their own, it’s much easier for them to bare the expense of hiring the services of a private investigator.
But there’s a better way!
There’s 1 of 2 things you can do to find out if your partner is cheating on you.
Hire a private investigator.
Or…
Find out how to effectively do it your self.
Most people don’t have the time, energy or expertise it takes to catch a cheating partner.
Hiring a good Private Investigator cost nearly $100 an hour.
Can you imagine paying $100 an hour only to discover you’re partner is not cheating after all?
That can feel like a big waste of your hard earned money.
You’ll have peace of mind of knowing you’re not being cheated on, but your pocketbook will suffer.
The good news is…
There’s an easier and far less expensive way to find out if you’re partner is cheating on you.
Hiring a (PI) Private Investigator is not necessary.
But wouldn’t it be helpful if you were given total access to lifelong (PI) secrets and tools to use at your own discretion.
Sure it would…
That’s exactly what’s about to happen!
You’re about to discover this once in a lifetime opportunity to access all the secrets professionals use to catch cheating partners.
You are given clear cut instructions on how to catch a cheating partner without ever having to leave the comfort of your home.
Excited yet?
I am…
I’m excited because I know this will give you some relief.
I know how it feels to be in a relationship with someone that everyone, except you, knows they’re cheating on you.
But that’s usually what happens…
The Last To Know You're Being Cheated On
I’ve been cheated on enough to know…It hurts!
Especially when it’s someone you’ve grown to love and trust.
The sad part is when it’s happening, you’re usually the last to know.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
There is a quick and easy way to find out if you’re being cheated on and it’s a game changer!
If I knew back then, what I know now, I would not have wasted so much of my time thinking the truth would simply reveal itself.
It won’t!
The old saying, things done in the dark will eventually come to light is true.
The question is….
- When?
- How long will it take?
- What do you do in the meantime?
- Do you suffer in silence and pretend everything’s ok?
The answer is NO!
Who has the time to wait for someone to find the moral decency to tell you the truth?
Not me!
Time is too precious…
One of my most important life lessons is learning how vital it is to proactively pursue the truth.
Sitting around speculating, feeling sorry for yourself, thinking life owes you something is counter-productive.
There is no benefit to self loathing no matter how difficult the situation appears to be.
The fact of the matter is…
You deserve the truth!
…and that’s what you’re about to get.
How To Handle A Cheating Partner
Now that we’ve seen how to uncover the truth and we’ve taken a closer look at the mindset of a cheating partner, let’s see how to handle the situation after getting solid proof your partner is cheating.
The first thing and perhaps the hardest thing of all to do is to forgive.
Why should you do such a thing?
They’ve hurt you to no end, so why should you forgive them and let them off the hook?
Here’s the thing…
Forgiveness does the exact opposite…
It frees you from carrying around the damaging emotions of anger and resentment.
It brings with it clarity in your decision making process.
….and it actually let’s you off the hook.
How does it let you off the hook?
Every prison has a guard.
You have to guard the prison you’ve placed the unforgiven into, so they don’t escape.
Until you forgive, you have to guard the prison door.
You’re in bondage just as much as the person you won’t forgive.
Isn’t that deep?
I think so…
Every situation is different, so there are no hard and fast answers on whether you should leave or stay in a relationship after finding out your partner is cheating, but the most important thing you can do, for your sake and theirs, is to find a way to forgive.
It’s more powerful than you think…
You want to know know how to handle a cheating partner?
That’s how you handle a cheating partner!
Forgive them and free yourself from the bondage of unforgiveness.